What Happened to Domestic Violence?
I am frustrated. No I am angry. I am angry that I can't go on social media because the topic is focused on yet another teen on a sports team that raped a young woman.
Why am I angry? I am angry because these friends who are posting these articles on social media, saying how disgusted they are, are the same friends who are still friends with my abuser on Facebook. I am angry because our culture has become so obsessed with news topics that we hold onto them like they affect our own personal lives. I am angry because each time I see an article such as this one, it hurts my heart. I am angry because the media never has articles about men being rape victims, and I am angry because domestic violence is rarely focused on or even talked about. I have seen countless 5k's, support groups, organizations and days focused on rape victims, and little to nothing for those that have been affected by domestic violence or assault. What bothers me even more though, is that men are left on the side lines to feel ashamed when they have to face these same scary situations.
Here are the facts:
Fact: Every 9 seconds a woman in the United States is being beaten or assaulted Fact: Nearly 20 people per minute are beaten by their partners Fact: 1 in 3 women, and 1 in 4 men will experience physical assault in their lifetime Fact: 2 million injuries and 1,300 deaths are caused each year as a result of domestic violence.
3 The number of women murdered every day by a current or former male partner in the U.S.
38,028,000 The number of women who have experienced physical intimate partner violence in their lifetimes.
4,774,000 The number of women in the U.S. who experience physical violence by an intimate partner every year.
8,000,000 The number of days of paid work women lose every year because of the abuse perpetrated against them by current or former male partners. This loss is equivalent to over 32,000 full-time jobs.
18,500,000 The number of mental health care visits due to intimate partner violence every year.
70 The percentage of women worldwide who will experience physical and/or sexual abuse by an intimate partner during their lifetimes.
Rape: Fact: 1 in 5 women and 1 in 71 men in the United States has been raped in their lifetime. Fact: Every 2 minutes someone in the United States is sexually assaulted Fact: On average, there are 288,820 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year in the United States. Fact: As of 1998, 2.78 million men in the U.S. had been victims of attempted or completed rape. Fact: 1 in 10 rape victims are male
One is not worse than the other, one doesn't have significantly greater statistics than the other. Even so we are still so obsessed with rape surrounding women in our culture that we forget about men, and other forms of violence as well.
As a young woman who was assaulted I had to fight through the pain. I had to spend sleepless nights tossing and turning, trying to stop myself from having nightmares. I felt numb and empty inside and wanted to reach out to someone but felt that no one would understand. I had to fight for justice and I am still fighting because I won't allow this man to get away with what many men and women do.
In a world that is full of so much hurt and damage, why must we forget that we are all dealing with something. Why do we feel the need to focus on one part of the problem when there are a million other aspects as well. Instead of focusing on rape, why not focus on abuse against women as well as abuse against men.
It's not focused on enough, covered enough or cared about enough and I have had enough.
Sources: http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/nisvs_report2010-a.pdf http://www.apa.org/topics/violence/partner.aspx?item=1 http://domesticviolencestatistics.org/domestic-violence-statistics/ http://www.who.int/violence_injury_prevention/violence/global_campaign/16_days/en/index7.html