5 Life Lessons from Netflix's 'GirlBoss'
Adulthood is Where Dreams Go to Die... Sort Of
Girlboss on Netflix is my newest binge-worthy series that I only took a break from watching because my eyes were straining while attempting to stay awake at 2 a.m. This show it witty, funny, awkward and so real that it makes almost everything seem so relatable. I have to admit that I've only read one chapter of Girl Boss the book, but even so, I still found a real connection with the story line. "You're preserving old memories I'm helping women create new ones, that's Nasty Gal". Sophia offers so many valid life lessons, how to stay sassy and how to get ahead in life.
Life lesson #1: Don't listen to the haters
No matter how hard you try the world and the people on it will try to knock you down, and sometimes with very little effort, they will succeed. Life is messy and it's full of people who will try to tell you that how you dress is weird, the way you speak is wrong, your career path won't make you any money and your lifestyle is what is causing you misery. Don't listen to them, not ever not even if at times you think that they are right. You should live the life that you choose to live even if that means rocking the 80's look, saying "wack" or an occasional "fuck" and stepping on toes until you climb your way to the top.
Life Lesson #2: Embrace your meltdowns
We've all been there, or at least I have. I have had a few nights of crying, yelling, ranting, writing down why I am angry and having so many hypothetical conversations to myself (sometimes out loud) am I the only one? Instead of keeping your emotions bottled up inside of you let them go. Hike to a tall mountain, take a boat out to sea, grab your pillow do whatever you can and just release that energy and scream. If you don't feel like damaging your vocal chords use your passion to release your built up frustrations and paint, dance, box, workout, write, cook, ice skate, walk your dog. Just do something that will take your mind off of your problem so that you can figure out how to break out of your rut and break through the walls that are in your way.
Life Lesson #3: Let the city be your guide
Sometimes it's easy to get lost in your daily routine, so much that you forget to soak in where you live in order to gain motivation. I live in Boston, and for those of you that aren't familiar with my city, it's a smaller version of New York City with streets that are more confusing. I can walk around the city, see the people, feel their energy and I am immediately inspired. Seeing men walking their dogs, children picking flowers, an engaged couple having their first photo shoot or a child running after some very scared ducks, makes me appreciate life and this crazy world that we live in. If I need inspiration when I am writing about nature I go to one of the many parks here, if I need culture then I head to the North End and soak in the Italians that surround it's brick lined streets. Explore your city and allow it to speak to you, seek it out when you need a friend when you want love when you need to feel at home. Like Carrie Bradshaw, I feel as though Boston has become my best friend.
Life Lesson #4: Never be afraid to stand up for yourself
This. This one has taken me so very long to learn and it wasn't until a few months ago that I finally started standing up for myself. I was always so timid and shy because after being bullied for so long I just wanted to be accepted and loved by everyone. I have come to realize that not everyone is going to like me and instead of making it my mission and trying to force them to like me, I accept it. This past year I lost a lot of people that I thought were my friends after I stood up for myself because apparently having an opinion isn't allowed unless your opinion matches someone else's. After this incident and after receiving so many horrible looks from those same people that I called my best friends I realized a few things. I realized that they were never my friends, to begin with because my actual friends usually tell me how opinionated I am and then move on. I've also realized that in order to make myself happy I need to stop worrying about making other people happy first, because I come first, my emotions and my own wellbeing come first. Stand up for what you believe in and seek out people who believe in the same things. Eventually, you will be surrounded by people who are just as open-minded as you are, honest as you are and free-spirited as you are. Always remember that people who are judging you, that they're hurting because only hurt people, hurt.
Life Lesson #5: Fashion tells the world who you are (before the world gets to know you)
When I was younger I took my thick hair, tiny waist and endless appetite for granted. I rarely styled my hair or even brushed it and when I did it was a sloppy mess on top of my head. I wore "cute" clothes but I definitely didn't have style or a fashion sense, instead, I tried desperately to look like Lizzie McGuire (I adore Hilary Duff). Now I know what I like and what I don't, I know what a round brush is and how to do a "blow out" on myself. I know what pressed powder is for and what shade of lipstick matches my completion. I know that for me I don't wear shirts that show my cleavage, shorts that are above my fingertips or skirts that aren't office appropriate. What my style says to the world is that I am a young professional who appreciates her womanly body and respects it by saving what's underneath for her significant other. I have made a few "feminists" mad when it comes to this topic because to me there is a time and place to wear booty shorts and the office, grocery store, mall, movies and other public places are not that place but the beach is. I believe that a woman can make a powerful statement even when she is modest and covers up her body. People will respect you more when you take care of your appearance and take pride in the fact that your brain matters more than your breasts or other assets.
Have you watched this show yet? If you haven't then please do and tell me what you think in the comments below!